You or your partner are contemplating a decision you never wanted to consider: Should we get divorced?
It’s not a casual decision to make. It’s huge. It’s one of the biggest decisions of your life. You want to be thoughtful about it. You want to be completely sure and right now, you don’t feel 100% clear or confident about what you want to do.
That’s where Discernment Counseling comes in.
Discernment Counseling
Discernment Counseling is the leading evidence-based process to help you decide what to do with the future of your marriage.
Over the course of 1-5 counseling sessions, we’ll work together to help you choose between 3 potential paths forward:
01— Keep the relationship as it currently is.
02— Pursue separation or divorce.
03— Commit to an all-out effort to save the marriage through couples therapy for 6 months.
THE PROCESS
Each session is 2 hours long.
This is a short-term process. Discernment Counseling takes place over 1-5 sessions.
You choose at the end of each session if you want to continue the process or if you have made your decision about what you want to do with the future of your relationship.
You may attend sessions in-person or through secure video call. If we meet virtually, you can log in from a different device/location from your spouse or you can log in together.
THE STRUCTURE
Each session will have the same structure:
We’ll start with a conversation with both partners and counselor. Then we’ll transition to a 1:1 conversation between Partner A and counselor.
After, we’ll have a reflection conversation with both partners and counselor. Then we’ll change roles and we’ll have a 1:1 conversation between Partner B and counselor.
We’ll end with a wrap-up conversation with both partners and counselor.
Address the underlying issues that led you to contemplate divorce
Conflict or Resentment
Infidelity or Betrayal
Lack of Connection
Division of Labor
Addiction or Mental Health
Incongruent Future Goals
Parenting
Discernment Counseling is right for you if:
01 You and your partner are leaning towards different paths forward. One is pretty sure they want to separate while the other wants to stay together.
02 You are throwing out the ‘divorce’ word when you have conflict.
03 You have mixed feelings about the divorce. Sometimes you think it’s a good idea and sometimes you’re not sure.
04 You would consider reconciling if your spouse got serious about making major changes.
05 You don’t want a divorce and would work hard to get the relationship healthy again.
Discernment Counseling is NOT right for you if:
01 There is active domestic violence happening in the relationship.
02 You are being coerced by your partner to participate in counseling together.
03 You are 100% sure that you want to get divorced and you are not willing to entertain the possibility of rethinking divorce.
04 You are not interested in a deeper understanding of what’s happened to your marriage and each person’s contributions to the problems.
05 You and your partner have already decided that you want to work on your marriage in couples therapy.
Ready for clarity ?
LET’S WORK TOGETHER.
01
Book a free 20-minute phone consult using my online calendar.
02
Complete online intake documents before our first session.
03
Attend the first session and we’ll craft a plan to reach your goals.